to marry a non-c OR not

WOW… I can see that this is a hot topic and we are very passionate about this. Haa..

Well… I have to tell a story..

Many years ago. A young lady was very passionate about serving God. She inspired a lot of people and at that time, she told others that she will never marry a non-c… She said it with an almost swearing tone. But as the years go by, the woman faces new challenges. She has forgotten her commitment to the Lord and she has passed her 30 – the deadline of the society to find the ONE. However, one day this handsome fine man appeared and soon she is married to him. Everything is prefect accept that he is not a Christian. They didn’t even have a wedding in church which was what she has dreamt of all the years. Also, her actions stumble a lot of girls who one looked up to her as their role models…..

What changed her decisions?



To be honest, I have never faced such huge pressures before the age of 22. Life was pretty much the same. But after I passed 22, some of my friends are already getting married! Where-ever I go, be it when I am traveling or at work, people often asked “when are you getting married?” When I just heard of such questions, I was so shock that I didn’t know what to answer. Even if they don’t ask you this question, they will rephrase it in another way. For eg, xw that day asked me, who will you choose from Tuan Qi if you have to choose ONE. HAHA~

You see.. People just completely skip the step of asking “what kind of guys do you like?” OR “are you ready to date now?”

The amount of pressures a woman face is indescribable!! Esp. when I see the number 3 approaching, it’s like I see hundreds and thousands of such questions dropping onto my head like rocks from the skies! *Ouch* *Ouch* *Ouch* Haha.. Really!! I’m sure stupid men will never understand that kind of feelings. *laughs*

Well, I can’t even consistently do QT everyday. What makes you think I can promise anyone I will not marry a non-c?

The only thing I want to do now is to focus and serve Him to my very best. Of course, I still pray that He prepare the one for me. And yes! I did have rush on non- c before! In the future each time if it happens, may my dear bro and sis-in-Christ gently remind me what to do. And also may I rmb the illustration which Jennifer shared. That as Christians we are standing on chairs and the non-c are on the floor, it’s always easier they pull us downwards than we pull them upwards. =)

Thank you all for reading! May God mould us into great partners for our future families!


Li 'Er